November 9, 2009

Filed under: Off and on the unbeaten track,Uncategorized — by AmiraAK @ 3:11 pm

When people travel and return to their country, they never return the same people they were when they left (so why do we always expect them to?)  That’s why when they return they become more critical and impatient with the situation of the country.. they are distant, they see things from a different angle and they’re not involved in the day-to-day details. 

They also become more critical and impatient with the people they know or used to know.  Again, they haven’t been involved in the day-to-day happenings and details of their lives (and shouldn’t really) and people change, so they can’t expect to deal with these people the same way they did a year, or two, or three ago.  They can’t expect these people to be static and pick up where they left off (if this happens that’s great; but I doubt it does).  And they can’t expect these people who have settled on certain routines to instantly return to their previous routines. 

What expectations do we have when friends and family return from long periods of stay abroad?  What expectations do these friends and family have of us when they return?

Things change, people change, routines change and it’s all a huge messy situation.



  1. People change with the passage of time whether they move or not. Moving just makes it more obvious and pronounced.

    Comment by jessyz — November 10, 2009 @ 5:09 pm |Reply

  2. i always wondered about that too :)
    i try to give people their space when they come over for a visit from abroad becuase a lot changes in a very short period. Even we sense this change and we live here.

    they are never the same, and never will be, and the same goes for us, we are not the same people whom they left behind.

    Comment by ze2red — November 17, 2009 @ 8:55 pm |Reply

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